Illinois Domestic Violence Myths and Tips

 Posted on November 13, 2013 in Domestic Violence

Many people like to believe that if someone close to them like a family member is being abused, they will know and can help, but that is not always the case. The comforts about domestic violence that we often tell ourselves are infrequently true. DomesticViolence.org explains the faults in many of these myths and family law tips as follows: 1. If the abuse is really bad, the victim would leave. Leaving an abuser physically or emotionally will not stop him from going after his victim. Trying to get away could also anger the abuser and worsen the abuse. According to the United States Department of Justice, the most dangerous time for a victim is when she tries to leave. 2. There is no domestic violence in my community. In one year alone, the state police of Michigan concluded that a woman was killed about once a week by a partner or former partner. 3. Only women of color and poor women are victims of domestic violence. Domestic violence has no filter. Victims range in age, religion, culture, class, marital status, sexual orientation, and gender. Although it is less frequent, men are victims of domestic violence too, along with white and rich women. 4. Domestic violence is caused by mental illness, drug abuse, alcohol, and stress. Mental illness and drug abuse are often used as excuses rather than being actual causes of domestic violence. 5. What happens between a husband and wife is a private and personal matter. Domestic violence commonly affects more than just the abuser and the first partner/victim. The American Psychological Association reported that 40 percent to 60 percent of men who abuse women also abuse children. Sometimes the abuse becomes more serious and the victim is killed through the abuse, 30 percent of female murder victims in 1996 were killed by husbands and boyfriends according to the FBI. This abuse happens all around us without anyone knowing until it is much too late for the victims. If you are a victim of domestic abuse or you know a victim, contact a family law attorney for assistance to get safely out of the relationship. Illinois family lawyers at the Davi Law Group can help a victim file charges against his or her abuser and safely stay away for good. We have locations in Warrenville and Wheaton, Illinois.